So. It’s happened again.
I didn’t expect it to happen, but it did.
I had a friend recently that I had a little bit of a falling out with. So I wrote him a long document to explain my side and my frustrations. He wrote one back to me.
And once again after reading it, I’m being forced to change. I don’t know how he does it, but every time I have a heart felt conversation with him, he puts me into a place where I’m forced to change. It’s really an uncanny ability I think.
He told me that his father told him that what really important is what you do when you aren’t being watched.
I’ve heard that before, but now I’m realizing just how relevant that is to me right now. And I’m being forced to change. Now I know that change is inevitable. Plus I sometimes like change. But it really annoys me that he’s always having this ability to force me to change!
You know what though? I need him in my life for that exact purpose. He forces me to change. I need that. I would otherwise stay in my comfort zone all the time, and having someone who challenges me like that is so very helpful!
I think that it really comes down to this. As human beings we need to change. We cannot stay the way we are forever. If we do that, I would consider that a form of death. Life really is about changing who we are. We are constantly affected by those around us. They are constantly changing us.
Your friends, they’re the number one source of change. The more you hang out with a particular group of friends, the harder it will become to break away from them because you will become so similar to them. You will begin to share their interests, their likes and dislikes, their thoughts and opinions. You’ll still retain yourself, but you will change.
But this friend of mine, my conversations to him cut me to the very essence of my being. And most of the time he doesn’t even realize it. He thinks he’s just talking to me, but in reality he’s challenging my very way of life. Most of the time it’s in a good way, a way that will cause me to flourish and grow to become better.
So the takeaway life lesson is this, find that person in life who challenges you to the very core of your being…and let them. It might be frustrating and annoying but in the end, it’ll be worth it.