Weekend Quotes #1

“Life is like a train ride. Some people will sit next to you and talk to you. Some will just stand around…oblivious to your existence. Some will have to leave the train while you’re having a great conversation and who knows when you’ll see them again. And if you’re lucky, there’ll be those who will sit and talk to you throughout the whole journey.”

~from a dear friend

 

“To let go of someone doesn’t mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find their own happiness without expecting them to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but is also setting yourself free from all the bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart. Do not let the bitterness take away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you; but rather let yourself grow with wisdom in bearing it.”

~anonymous

 

“Perhaps when we find ourselves wanting everything, it is because we are dangerously close to wanting nothing.”

~Sylvia Plath

 

“That’s when you know you’ve found somebody really special: you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably share silence.”

~Pulp Fiction

 

“Life is complicated. It starts before we’re ready, it continues while we’re still trying to figure out the point of it. And it ends long before we’ve worked out just what to do.”

~Adrian Tan

Advertisements

Impact

It’s amazing, some people, they just say these small little things, one sentence and it changes the way you feel about them in an instant. Small little words that can hurt you so much or make you fall deeply in love forever. It changes everything, nothing between you is ever really the same again, even if they don’t know it.

~ anonymous

The-power-of-words-425x272

Are you aware of the impact of your words?

They can have the power to hurt or to heal, the power to give and take.

When you call a young girl a slut, it changes her perception of herself forever.

When you call a boy a sissy, it puts a pain in his heart, he feels unworthy.

Just as much though, what goes unsaid is painful too.

I know far too many times when kind words have gone unspoken to me and I wonder. I also know how I have left kind words unsaid and undoubtedly made others wonder.

Your words have power, whether spoken or not. Watch them carefully.

Do not toss them around. Let them guard you and guide you.

Let your word be your bond.

Mine is. I know what it’s like to feel disappointed. I resolve to never make another person feel that way if I can help it. If I say that I am going to do something, you can damn well know that I’m going to. And if I don’t, or perhaps say maybe, then it’s because I don’t know, and would rather not break my word.

In the same way I am careful what I say about others. I know that words damage. I know they hurt. I’ve been there. I’ve suffered.

How much more would it be if we were to tell every girl that they were beautiful, tell every boy that he was manly. How much more would it mean to them to know they were normal and loved?

I know that it means a lot to me. When I have had others insult me, it calls into question many things that I believe about myself. But when someone affirms something, it changes everything.

So be careful. Choose your words, and give people value and worth in their lives.

Unconditional Love

Now here’s a topic that I’ve thought about often.

Unconditional love.

I mean, I’m a flawed person. Being a flawed person, how could I honestly love someone unconditionally?

Is it even possible to love someone unconditionally?

What does it even mean?

Sometimes I wonder who I will fall in love with, er, rather let me rephrase that. I am in love with someone. But I honestly wonder if they know. So what does it even look like, this being in love?

I would wager that it looks like unconditional love.

So what is this?

Well. I’m glad you asked.

It is a love has no bounds and is unchanging.

It is affection without any limitations.

It means loving someone regardless of their qualities or actions.

It means loving someone no matter how they treat you, no matter who else comes into your life, no matter if they deny your existence, are thousands of miles away, look past you as if you’re invisible, and even see you in person every day.

They hold your heart and are not even aware.

They cause you pain and yet you still cling on.

You look at them, and you still get butterflies.

You try not to think of them, and they penetrate your mind.

That is unconditional love.

You would give them anything to ensure they succeed. You would do anything to make them happy, even if it meant you never spoke again.

I never thought I would find someone like that…and yet I have.

But this isn’t about me.

It’s about you.

Do you know what it’s like to encounter someone like that?

Someone who cares about you infinitely more than themselves?

I’ve been on the receiving end too. And at the time I had no idea.

But here’s the deal. When you find someone like that, don’t you ever let them go.

You are lucky if you find even one person like that in your life. That’s how rare they are. I found one whom I demonstrate that unconditional love to, and had one who did it to me. They are the one who will be there for you when no one else is. They are the one who will stand behind you when everyone else has fled.

This world is hard.

This world is mean.

You will suffer.

You will be ignored, annoyed, bored, hit, beat, and stomped on.

You will cry your eyes out.

Your heart will bleed with sorrow.

You will run out of tears at least once.

But.

You will also claim victory.

You will also triumph and celebrate in glory.

You will cry tears of happiness.

You will suffer pain in your sides from laughter.

And throughout it all, you will hopefully one day find another who will love you unconditionally. They will stand with you in the pain and the joy. They will be with you in defeat and triumph. They will see you at your weakest and your strongest. So do not let them go. Keep them close, because otherwise you will quickly find yourself downtrodden in this life.

I leave you with a quote that I once thought completely true…now, I am not so sure.

The world is not the most pleasant place. Eventually your parents leave you and nobody is going to go out of their way to protect you unconditionally. You need to learn to stand up for yourself and what you believe and sometimes, pardon my language, kick some ass.

~Queen Elizabeth II

 

Your Worth is Infinite

I’m tired of feeling worthless, used, and abused.

I don’t want to just be a doormat for others to walk over, and honestly there are only a couple people, less than five for sure, who do that to me.

And I’m tired of it.

So I’m going to move on.

I know what I’m worth, and it sure isn’t at the level that they make me feel like it is.

I mean there’s only one person who has ever made me feel totally worthless, and I gave them the chance to do it over and over. The next time I’ll see them, they’ll act as though everything is just fine and nothing’s changed. But everything has.

I don’t want to feel worthless, and I’ve even told them…yet they ignored me.

So as I was walking to meet with a professor today, the sun was shining, the sky was clear, and there seemed to be nothing wrong in the world. I could breath, I could see, I could hear, I could feel the wind and sun.

I knew what it was like to be alive.

If I knew that, why would I let some person ruin my day?

Why would I let them make me feel like that?

So I made a decision of sorts. I decided that I didn’t want to deal with that. Do I love that person? I do, they mean a lot to me, and for a long time they meant more to me than I meant to myself.

So I’m cutting them out, or at least not letting them have so much of a stake in my life. My own happiness and well-being is not worth less than a friendship with someone.

And the final close to this post, has nothing to do with it and yet everything. I got a bottle of water today, a FlavorSplash actually, and grape, if you were wondering.

For me it was just a reminder of the simple pleasures of life.

If you’re reading this, then you’re alive and breathing.

Relish that fact.

Treasure it.

And never let anyone define your worth.

You’re alive. And because you’re alive, your worth is infinite.

photo

[untitled post #3]

I don’t know if I can really explain how I feel sometimes.

There are times when I am super happy, others when I’m so-so, and still others when I’m sad.

My mood fluctuates more than it should, or at least more than I think it should.

So how do I overcome this?

I mean not even a couple weeks ago I had a realization. A revelation, if you will. Why is it that I always feel abandoned, why is it that I always feel as though people don’t like me?

It’s tough having lived a life like that. A life when the friends that I have, and think so much of and about just don’t care about me.

To some people in my life I feel as though I’m nothing more than a persistent fly buzzing around their head. Like the only thing I do is annoy them to no end.

They don’t talk to me.

They seem to be doing what they can to get away from me when they’re with me.

They seem to do what they can to ignore me.

And it hurts.

Of course the most shameful thing, the one that causes me the most pain is that I do the same thing to other people in my own life.

So why do I tend to care so much?

I know what it’s like.

I know what it’s like to be ignored, shunned, disappointed, and shut down.

And it seems as though at times I only seem to pick friends who do that to me. I never seem to pick friends who build me up, and if I do, I ignore them and do all that stuff that gets done to me. I do it all unintentionally though.

This whole friendship thing…it’s complicated.

How can you take two people and put them together and expect them to relate?

See, you have person A who views the world in an entirely idiosyncratic way, and then person B who views the world in their own entirely idiosyncratic way. How in the world can you expect them to have a relationship??

There has to be something else at work here…something that causes us to related to each other and leads us towards interactions.

There are some people that are nothing but damaging for me to be friends with or in a relationship with…and yet there’s something that draws us together.

I can’t explain it, I can’t understand it, but it’s real.

I guess this really is just a long rambling to say, my relationships are going to still be there no matter what happens. I wish I could say that I believe in an-eye-for-an-eye behavior…but I don’t. So even though there are relationships that are incredibly damaging for me, they do nothing but hurt and frustrate me, they’re still my friends, and I love them.

Anyways…just the musings of a twenty-something guy for the day for ya. 🙂