It’s no secret that looks can be deceiving. (And if you thought that they couldn’t be, surprise!) We oft depend on our eyes too much. Yes, I will admit that they are absolutely wonderful things and there are a thousand other colors that we can’t see. But the fact that we can see colors at all is amazing. The biology of the eye is really quite astonishing, but I won’t spend any time trying to convince you of that. I want to talk about using our eyes a little bit less though.
I recently reread the book Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom. When I was a student in Upward Bound seven or eight years ago (dear god how time flies) I can remember going to see the play. At the time I had no idea that it was based off of a book. Then at some point I discovered it and got the book and thus far I’ve read it two or three times, a rarity for me. I usually don’t reread books despite the fact that I have a small collection that I have purchased to keep forever. But the books that I do reread, there’s usually a reason.
I’ve reread the Harry Potter series (because they’re awesome), the Lord of the Rings trilogy (an epic that I aspire to write something like), and Tuesdays with Morrie. There might be a few others, but they’re so few that I really don’t remember them. That should speak volumes for what I think of the books I do reread. But enough about my reading habits. On to the real material!
One of the quotes from Tuesdays with Morrie that I wanted to share comes from a small in-between chapter. Mitch Albom talks about how the college class he was in is practicing trust falls. Everyone seems to be uncomfortable with it until one girl closes her eyes and falls. Her partner catches her, a relief because I’m sure it would have been awful to hit the floor. The best part though is what Morrie says about it (this is him speaking in the quote below), and of course that’s what Albom is pointing out with the entire story.
‘You see,’ he says to the girl, ‘you closed your eyes. That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too–even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.’
Appearances carry too much weight in this world. Far too much.
I can be honest when I say this to you. I have found, in some cases, much more trust in those whom I thought I could trust the least. Those that I trusted the most in the beginning showed me in the end that it was not necessarily true. I would let my sight of them determine what I felt and how much I trusted them. What I found was that as I came to know them, my expectations became entirely different.
Those things that are most beautiful in this life, are never seen by the eyes. They are always felt.
I wish that I could articulate the feelings I have for one individual, and I have tried. But I can not, for the life of me, properly articulate the feelings I truly feel and have because I’m not supposed to. In a way, they are far to precious and beautiful for me to share and so I’m prevented from doing so. I cannot properly express the overwhelming feelings of gratitude, love, and acceptance that I have for them. But I can feel them.
When I close my eyes to listen to a song, it’s almost as if I’m in another world.
When I cry, I enter into a place of solitude where no one can follow.
When I write, I enter into a world that I call my own in every possible way.
When I dream, I rarely share them. I shared my dreams with someone once, a very close and dear friend of mine. I shared with him a piece of my dream and he was surprised at what they were. It was a side of me that he had never seen before, and rightly so because the most beautiful things are never seen by the eyes.
So all of this to say, use your eyes a little less. Never close them, no, don’t do that. You could miss seeing the beauty of the universe. But those things worth seeing the most, those things that are the real heart and soul of people, those things, you can never see with your eyes.